I am still working on the final program to incorporate happiness into our lives. We have learned a lot from the Templar Tradition. There will be a strong element of surrender and in clearing all negative emotions.
Have you ever had the impression that the friends, acquaintances and guests who celebrated with you at a party had found the secret of happiness, but not you? Do you feel imperfect? Are you working hard to improve? Have you ever thought about changing your body? Have you suffered from your mistakes and imperfections that you thought others would love or appreciate less? If so, then welcome to the human family! We all have a voice in our heads that does not stop commenting on our lives with their negative talk. Every human being, on this planet who has accomplished something great, even something as great as the attainment of happiness, had to fight against this ego voice. Which way did the winners of this fight go against the inner adversary? How have primitive peoples around the world managed to preserve the innocence and happiness of childhood? Why have some cultures banned competitions and only played games where there were no losers? The answer to these questions is in your hands! But please be patient.
We in the West have been brought up to the belief that happiness can be gained through effort. However, if we were lucky, we were happy as children without effort. Then we were taught to go to school and do things we much less liked than romping, playing, and painting. We should go to school to later regain the happiness that was lost to us now as adults. Most of us have never recovered that happiness. The whole socialization was only intended to alienate us from ourselves. People who have lost themselves have to search and they mostly seek out in the outside, where their soul is not. These people are reliable members of society because they want to earn money to realize their dreams in the outdoors. Our society is based on mutual dependence. If we were all free and independent of industry offerings, we would not be so easily governed. We would not accept many things in our lives if we could feel our soul stronger. That’s why it’s good that many people today are on the path of inner awakening. It is a liberation movement that goes deeper than the 1960s hippy revolution that was directed against the Vietnam War and issued “Make Love Not War!”, With the term “love” having a strong sexual meaning. Today we know that we do not just become better people when we go to bed together. Also not necessarily happier. The happiness we chase after seems more like the scent of roses rising in certain chapels of the two Marys, the Mother of Jesus and the Magdalene, sometimes without reason and disappearing again. Happiness is fleeting and eludes our access until we fulfill its conditions and it illuminates itself. Luckily, there are methods that can bring it out. These are passed on in this book. They are not where we suspect them.
In Japan, millions of people have ikigai (pronounced Ick-ee-guy)— a reason to jump out of bed each morning.
What’s your reason for getting up in the morning?
The Japanese island of Okinawa, where ikigai has its origins, is said to be home to the largest population of centenarians in the world.
Could the concept of ikigai contribute to longevity?
Dan Buettner, author of Blue Zones: Lessons on Living Longer from the People Who’ve Lived the Longest, believes it does.
According to Buettner, the concept of ikigai is not exclusive to Okinawans: “there might not be a word for it but in all four blue zones such as Sardinia and Nicoya Peninsula, the same concept exists among people living long lives.”
Buettner suggests making three lists: your values, things you like to do, and things you are good at. The cross section of the three lists is your ikigai.
Studies show that losing one’s purpose can have a detrimental effect.
American mythologist and author Joseph Campbell once said, “My general formula for my students is “Follow your bliss.” Find where it is, and don’t be afraid to follow it.”
“Your ikigai is at the intersection of what you are good at and what you love doing,” says Hector Garcia, the co-author of Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life.He writes,“Just as humans have lusted after objects and money since the dawn of time, other humans have felt dissatisfaction at the relentless pursuit of money and fame and have instead focused on something bigger than their own material wealth. This has over the years been described using many different words and practices, but always hearkening back to the central core of meaningfulness in life.”
ikigai is seen as the convergence of four primary elements:
- What you love (your passion)
- What the world needs (your mission)
- What you are good at (your vocation)
- What you can get paid for (your profession)
Discovering your own ikigai is said to bring fulfilment, happiness and make you live longer.
Want to find your Ikigai? Ask yourself the following four questions:
1. What do I love?
2. What am I good at?
3. What can I be paid for now — or something that could transform into my future hustle?
4. What does the world need?
In their book Ikigai The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles break down the ten rules that can help anyone find their own ikigai.
1. Stay active and don’t retire
2. Leave urgency behind and adopt a slower pace of life
3. Only eat until you are 80 per cent full
4. Surround yourself with good friends
5. Get in shape through daily, gentle exercise
6. Smile and acknowledge people around you
7. Reconnect with nature
8. Give thanks to anything that brightens our day and makes us feel alive.
9. Live in the moment
10. Follow your ikigai
What you deeply care about can unlock your ikigai
Follow your curiosity.
Philosopher and civil rights leader Howard W Thurman said, “Ask what makes you come alive and go do it.” … “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
The problem for millions of people is that they stop being curious about new experiences as they assume responsiblities and build routines.
Their sense of wonder starts to escape them.
But you can change that, especially if you are still looking for meaning and fulfilment in what you do daily.
Albert Einstein encourages us to pursue our curiosities. He once said:
“Don’t think about why you question, simply don’t stop questioning. Don’t worry about what you can’t answer, and don’t try to explain what you can’t know. Curiosity is its own reason. Aren’t you in awe when you contemplate the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure behind reality? And this is the miracle of the human mind — to use its constructions, concepts, and formulas as tools to explain what man sees, feels and touches. Try to comprehend a little more each day. Have holy curiosity.”
A classic example is Steve Jobs’ curiosity for typefaces which led him to attend a seemingly useless class on typography and to develop his design sensibility.
Later, this sensibility became an essential part of Apple computers and Apple’s core differentiator in the market.
We are born curious. Our insatiable drive to learn, invent, explore, and study deserves to have the same status as every other drive in our lives.
Fulfilment is fast becoming the main priority for most of us. Millions of people still struggle to find what they are meant to do. What excites them. What makes them lose the sense of time. What brings out the best in them.
“Our intuition and curiosity are very powerful internal compasses to help us connect with our ikigai,” Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles write.
What is the one simple thing you could do or be today that would be an expression of your ikigai?
Find it and pursue it with all you have, anything less is not worth your limited time on planet earth.